Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Loray


One month ago today, I lost my best friend. Today is much like that day-the sun is shinning, birds are singing, and people are going about their lives...and it all...seems...so...wrong. How can the world keep on spinning? How can the sun dare to shine? The loss of Loray has been devastation personified in the lives of so many. On this day I would like to share the words I spoke at her funeral. I love you Ray-Ray. You will continue to live in the hearts and lives of those you loved...Forever


When I spoke with Loray’s sister Shirley Saturday night and she asked me if I would like to speak at this service today I immediately said yes, but when I hung up the phone I was absolutely panic stricken that, for the first time in almost 25 years, I wouldn’t be able to find the right words to say ...because I now know there truly is a grief that can not be spoken.   

I met Loray in 1987 when I had just turned 21 years old.  I was a single mom in the middle of a divorce and I pretty much had the words “trauma and drama” written all over me, but Ray chose to look past all of that.  She saw my worth as a person and took me under her wing.  That’s what she did with everyone she came in contact with.  My relationship with Loray, while so dear and precious to me, was not unique.  If you were blessed enough to be her friend, her family, her coworker, her listener...then you were adored by her.  We were all in her “family” and there was simply nothing she would not do for us.  Her love was sacrificial.

I owe so much to her.  She encouraged my radio career which she started in 1988 and I went on to be an announcer from coast to coast for nearly 20 years.  She gave me my wings so I could fly and I took her with me wherever I went.  I guess it’s only fair that she took part of me with her to her new Heavenly home Tuesday morning.
  
So I called her cell phone the day after she passed...just so I could hear her voice on her voicemail message. The really strange thing is I left her a message. "Ray it's me. If you're picking up your messages in Heaven, I want you to know that I love you, and I miss you...really bad Ray Ray....really bad..." What I also should've said (with my cracking voice and through the non stop tears) is that I hope she is seeing what is going on here in the town she loved, by all of the people she loved. I want her to see her impact...and I am sure she is somewhere all wide eyed saying "I had no idea!" because she never completely knew her value...that is actually part of what made her so special. Loray Christine has left us a legacy....a legacy of love and laughter. May we rise to her example and cause more laughter than we do tears, and treat everyone we meet like they are the most important person in the world, like she did. Loray had pain and heartbreak in her life at times...but just because she had pain she knew she didn't have to be a pain.

Loray lived a life that will transcend all restrictions of space and time...life and death.  My life is infinitely better because I knew Loray Robinson.  She was a game changer.  I am forever changed and forever thankful.

I hope you, her friends and family, will join me in rising to the challenge of spreading her legacy...a legacy of pure love, light, and laughter.

I love you Loray.  “Do take care my friend”